Inauthenticity Leads to Chronic Stress

If we add up the number of years that might be lost because of stress and living in the fictional self, it would be thirty-two years! - Dr Phil McGraw

Inauthenticity Leads to Chronic Stress
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๐ƒ๐ข๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ž๐ง ๐จ๐ง๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐š๐ง? ๐’๐ก๐จ๐œ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ? ๐Ÿ˜ณ ๐‹๐ž๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐œ๐ก ๐ฌ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐š๐›๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌโ€ฆ

Yesterday, I started the conversation on toxic environments and how our body triggers a fight-or-flight response when faced with danger in our environment.

However, because toxic environments donโ€™t present any physical danger, we often ignore the alarm systems that go off internally.

If youโ€™re wondering what alarm systems are going off. See some examples below:

๐Ÿ“You lose your peace.

๐Ÿ“Youโ€™re unhappy and depressed.

๐Ÿ“You are stressed.

๐Ÿ“Youโ€™re mentally exhausted and emotionally flat.

๐Ÿ“You are always on edge and anxious.

In the fight-or-flight reaction, there are three stages: Alarm, Resistance, and Exhaustion.

Research shows that when the body experiences the alarm and resistance stages frequently, in the long run, it begins to shut down.

Chronic stress weakens our immune system as itโ€™s in constant fighting mode until it eventually shuts down.

According to Dr Phil McGraw, in his book Self Matters, ๐ฆ๐ž๐๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐š๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’ ๐ฒ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ฒ by living this kind of prolonged stress.

He further quotes Dr Michael Roizen's research that for every year that we live with high stress, we shorten our life expectancy by three years. When we don't have an outlet for our true passion, it costs us another six years. If someone is draining our energy due to constant turmoil and conflict, we lose another eight years.

In fact, if we add up the number of years that might be lost because of stress and living in the fictional self, it would be thirty-two years!

Wow! When I read this, I was literally shocked! Eyes wide, mouth open, kind of shocked.

The average life expectancy in the world is about 73 years according to the UN data. And for some countries like Nigeria, itโ€™s even lower at 56 years! ๐Ÿ˜ข

Tell me again why youโ€™re choosing to stay in a toxic environment that compromises your mental, emotional, spiritual and eventually, physical health.

I hope by reading this, you find the courage to evaluate your environment and ask yourself, โ€œ๐š๐ฆ ๐ˆ ๐ฌ๐š๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž?โ€

If youโ€™re not, please itโ€™s time to start devising your exit strategy to get yourself to safety.

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